After writing my original post about being a comforter I’ve been thinking about this a lot more and so decided to write another post on it. Lots of people commented on my last post saying that also felt like they were comforters, and talked about how they felt about this, so I thought it would be nice to chat about it a bit more!
I wrote my first post at a time when I felt a little drained after being constantly asked for help and advice by a couple of close friends, who have been struggling with depression, and I guess I just wanted to write down my feelings and realise that being a comforter and someone people trust isn’t a bad thing at all.
I’ve also came to the same conclusion, that being that comforter is truly an honor. It shows people trust you and respect you and how you live your life enough to come to you when they have trouble of their own.
-The lovely Meg from EmandM commented this on my last post-
In the last few weeks however I’ve been helping and comforting a few other people, and I’ve realised that this is actually something I really enjoy. Its the kind of thing that, most of the time, actually energises me and makes me feel happy, as I see the things I say make people happier.
Maybe even something I’m good at, (although I often feel like what I say makes no sense at all!) as people always respond to any help or advice I give them with thankfulness and joy.
Yup I’m a comforter. But the thing is I don’t really know why because I’m never quite sure what to say.
–Dancingteen02 on my last post-
I feel like something a lot of people need is joy. Whether that is just day to day laughter and smiles, or when they’re struggling with something much bigger, like grief or depression. I actually have wooden letters in my bedroom which spell out the word JOY, and I guess its always something I’ve had on my heart, to bring happiness to people who need it.
I would love to be someone who brings comfort and joy to peoples lives, someone that always brings a smile to other people’s faces after talking to me.
I would like people to come to me more and trust me as a kind, helpful person. My aim is not to be the cool girl but to be the kind girl.
-Anonymous on my last post (who sadly doesn’t have a blog yet but hopefully will soon)-
Over To You…
Are you a comforter? What do you think about my thoughts? Is there anything that you are naturally talented at or especially enjoy? What kind of person do you want to be known as?
Lots of love,
PS. Over on the JOYFUL YOUNG HEARTS blog which I co-write we have just started a set of challenges called Spread The Joy, where each week we encourage people to do something (whether that be giving someone a hug, making a friend a cake, or leaving little happy notes for people in random places) which will ultimately spread joy and love. I would love it if we could start being a part of this on my blog too, it is super easy, lots of fun and sure to bring a smile to other people’s faces! You can head over to joyfulyounghearts.wordpress.com for more details if you want to, where we update the SpreadTheJoy page each week with a new challenge.
I will be taking part of this on Twitter and would love it if you all wanted to join in! If you have Twitter you can tweet whatever you are doing for that challenge with the hashtag #JYHspreadthejoy, and if not then you can head over to the Joyful Young Hearts website and comment on the SpreadTheJoy page xxx